September 28 2019


This is a bonus just for the youth leader—a quick tip and an illustration to enhance your youth leadership. You may already know this idea, have learned it through trial and error, or just need a quick reminder.



If you’re asking a deep question, usually you’ve already given it some thought yourself. Those listening are just hearing it, and some ponder longer than others, especially if they choose to give more than a superficial answer. If the silence pressures you to answer your own question rather than waiting for participants, give permission for the silence by saying something like, “This question requires some time to reflect before answering, so I’m going to ask it, but please don’t answer out loud for about 10-15 seconds, okay?” Then ask your question and let there be silence. Restate the question after the 10-15 seconds. That small pause could lead to a deeper discussion.


Click below to download the Cornerstone Connections leader’s guide and student lesson. This week’s resources also include two lesson plans and a discussion starter video which offer different ways of looking at the topic. Each lesson plan includes opening activities, scripture passages, discussion questions, and real-life applications.


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